Role of a Faith-Based Mentor
Demonstrate, by example, spiritual values in love, faith and hope, and enhance the spiritual growth of child
Mentors must come prepared to be spiritual role models in their daily lives. Many children do not have the notion of hope in their lives. Mentors can often make a difference by simply being a friend and buddy, and sharing the significance of having God in their lives.
Show respect for individuals and their abilities and their right to make their own choices in life
Mentors cannot come with the attitude that their own ways are better or that participants need to be "rescued." Mentors who convey a sense of respect and equal dignity in the relationship win the trust of their partners, and the privilege of being advisors to them
LISTEN and accept different points a view
Most people can find someone who will give advice or express opinions. It is much harder to find someone who will suspend his or her own judgment and really listen. Mentors often help simply by listening, asking thoughtful questions, and giving participants an opportunity to explore their own thoughts with a minimum of interference. When people feel accepted, they are more likely to ask for help and respond to ideas
Empathize with another person’s struggles
Good mentors can feel "with" people without feeling pity "for" them. Even without having had the same life experiences, they can empathize with their partner’s feelings and personal problems.
See solutions and opportunities as well as barriers
Good mentors balance a realistic respect for the real and serious problems faced by their partners with optimism about finding equally realistic solutions. They are able to make sense of a jumble of issues and point out sensible alternatives.
Be Flexible and open
Good mentors recognize that relationships take time to develop and that communication is a two-way street. They are willing to take time to get to know their partners, to learn new things that are important to their partners (music, styles, and philosophies), and even to be changed by their relationship.
Source:Greater Philadelphia Mentoring Partnership, Church Mentoring Network
